The other day, I was invited to a community event at my former school.  What made this visit so special was that I was able to see old colleagues and parents; some of whom I hadn’t seen in 2 years.  It felt so great to see people that made me smile, so many days, over the years.  It was truly a reunion.  There was a reoccurring theme, though: My marriage.

Previously, I wasn’t worried about post-marriage talk coming up in conversation.  The thought never crossed my mind.

[Oh yeah, for my new readers, you may need to know that I’m someone’s ex-husband. ]

There was a time I would belly-ache about having the conversation with people, but I don’t really care anymore.  A couple of teachers asked me, “How’s married life,” or “How’s your wife?”  I immediately stood firmly, and told the truth: “I’m not married anymore”.  It’s amusing because I know a couple of people were shocked, but I had a blast telling people (although blast isn’t the first word one things of about this kind of thing).  One person said, “Oh.  I’m so sorry to hear that.”  I simply replied,” I’m not.”  LOL.

I was telling the truth.  I’ve gotten over the shame of “so many people will know” and “what will they think [about me] now?”  Who cares?  Not this guy.  The fact that there’s no shame, screams at me, “YOU HAVE COME SO FAR!” As I stop to appreciate the scenery around me, I know I’m not at the end of the journey, though.

I am not resting on my laurels.  I know that I have further to go.  I’m constantly evolving and willfully being improved upon.  I say that because I’m allowing myself to be worked on.  One of the benefits is having no shame.

It’s crazy because I can see that my heart is mended and I’m stronger.  Thank God.

Until next time,

Love, Peace & No shame.

-Herbie