You are who you are, rather other people know it or not. So, why try to be something that you’re not? It’s not really worth it.
I can remember there was a time when I didn’t really like who I was. I think I was too busy trying to be what I thought other people wanted me to be. I didn’t even know who I was. Don’t get me wrong here- You know from my last posts that I’m still figuring things out even now.
But there was a time when I was worse off . Somewhere down the line, I had the idea that because I wasn’t very attractive, all I had to offer was my friendship. I figured that I would impress a girl with my intellect as opposed to my non-existent looks. Meanwhile, I would wonder why I was getting passed over, time after time, for these other guys. I just didn’t get it. I put myself in the “friend zone” to begin with. What’d I expect? Lol.
Years of fashioning myself to believe that a woman wants a guy who is the “perfect gentleman” has yielded me a couple of significant “L’s” in the win/lose column. Ha! I can laugh about it because it adds to the endearment of my journey. Some days, I don’t feel like opening the door for a female. Does this make me a bad dude? No. This makes me human. I tell my male students at school,”Whatever you had to do to get the girl, you must continue to do to keep her.” Whatever that is.
I am in no way telling guys to be considerate, but I am saying,”Be yourself.” That’s all that we have. There’s no sense in someone liking the person you pretend to be. Where’s the fun in that? Eventually, you’ll become tired of acting, and the truth will reveal itself. Maybe it’ll be revealed in a few months, maybe in a few years, or maybe once your married. Eventually, it will catch up with you.
Do you want to be loved for who you are or for who someone thought you were?
I think the best thing that could’ve happened to me was when I was asked to leave (a couple of years ago). At the time, I thought that I would die (quite literally), but I’ve only come to realize that I was being saved from living an empty life of pretending. Thank God.
Until next time,
Always Love Peacefully.