I expected my friends to support the things that I did because they’re my friends (the good things, of course). I think that I’m a pretty good friend and I deserve the same type of loyalty and commitment that other people get from me. Is that too much to ask? I can’t be the only one who thinks this way.
If you think that sounds a lot like entitlement, you might be right.
But wait: how I treat them is my choice; it has nothing to do with how they choose to treat me.
Was it fair for me to impose my unvoiced expectations on them? Should they be subjected to that type of manipulation (yes, you read that correctly)? Is that friendly?
I say manipulation because I live by the golden rule: “Treat others how you would like to be treated.” It’s not read, “Treat others good so they can treat you the way you want to be treated.” See the difference?
People also expect you to drop everything and come to their beck and call. So, I became that person. I would drop everything and rush to their side. Sometimes, literally. Maybe I’d get a text message saying, “I need to talk.” I’d be on the phone right away.
Was that fair to me? Did I set and apply a fair expectation for myself and those around me? Life happens, and people can’t really be there when you need them: all of the time. People do have lives. In fact, I have a life, too.
I am beginning to understand more that people are who they are, and I should accept them as they are. Maybe they can’t support me, for whatever reason.
I am growing into my “that’s okay.”
Until Next Time,
Love & Peace.